UNDER WHICH NAME?
A compilation of Interesting Opinions
From MRS. JULIA WARD HOWE
         MRS. BURTON HARRISON
         MRS. LYMAN ABBOTT
         MRS. AMELIA E. BARR
         MRS. HARRIETT PRESCOTT SPOFFORD
         MRS. A. D. T. WHITNEY
MRS. FRANCES HODGSON BURETT
MRS. ELIZABETH STUART PHELPS WARD
MRS. HENRY WARD BEECHER
MRS. ELLA WHEELER WILCOX
MRS. REBECCA HARDING DAVIS
MRS. ROSE HARTWICK THORPE 
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THE query whether a married woman who has won a certain amount of fame entirely independent from that as her husband痴 wife, shall be known in her professional and social life as Mrs. Susan, or a Mrs. John Smith, has been on so many occasions productive of lengthy and interesting discussion, that it has seemed that a collection of opinions upon the subject, from clever and famous women, might prove of interest and value. With this objective in view the question was broadened into "Should a married woman be known as Mrs. John Brown or Mrs. Mary Brown?" and "Under what circumstances is either appellation correct?" and in this form submitted to many of the cleverest of the famous women of America.

     The opinions, as expressed in the replies which are given below, were as various as the writers, and ran the gamut between what Mrs. Frances Hodgson Burnett cleverly calls "brutal crimes" and "shining virtues," and when reduced to a plain statement are, in the majority of cases, to the effect that, I all domestic and social business and in correspondence, the wife shall be known as Mrs. John Brown, while in her independent career she shall win and use her own name, as Susan or Mrs. Susan Brown. This, as most correct opinions are, is the practice which obtains generally throughout the social and literary world of clever and well-bred women.

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I CONFESS to entire ignorance as to the most acceptable manner of 

addressing a married woman, nor do I know that there is any recognized code or rule applied to this question; therefore, I can only give my preferences and opinions. I do not like to see a letter addressed to a married woman by her own first name. The husband痴 full name, not his initials, in my judgment, should always be used. this is more dignified for the wife, more respectful to the husband, and certainly more convenient for all business purposes. One thing is certain; personally, I always prefer to have letters addressed to me as 
MRS. HENRY WARD BEECHER

I DO not know that I recognize any code in this matter, because a woman who has given her name to the public while unmarried cannot expect that public to observe a strict social code when she marries. At the same time, I like to have my social letters, and all home and domestic correspondence, addressed to Mrs. Robert M. Wilcox, as it is my to my husband that I owe my home, and social position of a respected and protected wife.

    I do not expect editors and publishers to take this matter into consideration, however, as it is my work, and not my personality, which has made me of interest to them as a correspondent.

    But there is always a greater pleasure to me in seeing a letter bearing my husband痴 name than those which come simply addressed to

ELLA WHEELER WILCOX 
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"Under Which Name" The Ladies Home Journal 10.6 (May 1893): 2.
Courtesy of John M. Freiermuth.