Writing a woman's life.
Carolyn G. Heilbrun
New York : Norton, c1988.
p. 54

To "let oneself go" is to resign one's sense of oneself as a woman and therefore, in many cases, as a person. (We remember that Virginia Woolf said of Ella Wheeler Wilcox: "Rather than look like a bluestocking she would have forsaken literature altogether.") Women are, of course, encouraged to be concerned with their physical attractiveness; for that reason it requires great courage to ignore one's appearance and reach out, as it were, from behind it to attract and spellbind: it also requires great talent.